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Worried, scared.

I am not from a military family, I actually have never been anypart of the militart till I got with my boyfriend who has just recently enlisted into the United States Army and leaves for Basic Training on June 26 for Fort Jackson, South Carolina. I am having a very hard time dealing with everything and my parents don't really know how to help me through it. But my boyfriend feels as if he isn't doing something right because I get upset about it. And I am beyond proud of him. I just don't know how to deal with the fact that he will be leaving for something this big.

Does anyone have any ideas for me and how to cope with this?

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Comment by jessicat2 on January 2, 2012 at 8:21pm: Join a Family Readiness Group. I'm sure there is one at your boyfriend's squandron. It helps with deployment and lots of other things. You go to seminars, sure, but you make long lasting friends and #s. Another thing is that I didn't feel worried or scared. When I was little and my Dad was deployed, the only thing that scared me was my mom, who was scared. So, everyone might feel the same. They just don't show it. ;) good luck, clover

Comment by Rachel Card on December 30, 2011 at 12:18am: I'm pretty sure you first have to realistically look at your relationship before you even address the issue emotionally. How long have you been with him? Can you handle having a military bf, fiancée, husband? Many people can't - it's not easy. Both my uncle and my brother had their first fiancées leave them because they simply could not deal with the lifestyle. Many people gloss over the spouses of military, but they have a job that I'd say is just as hard as their Soldier's. It's not to scare you, but basic is the easiest part. I'm assuming he's going directly out of high school? If I'm right, it's just like he's going off to a college instead. One that you just weren't accepted to. After that, you get to be reunited (probably) for a while for some R&R and that's great! And you decide where your relationship is going from there. But from a standpoint of someone who's seen this scenario a lot? Don't worry about it. Enjoy your time together and worry about his future lifestyle in the future, when he finds out what it's like to be in service. He might not like it and get out in four years; he might make it into a full career. He probably won't even know fully until a while after boot camp. And you might find you aren't suited to be with a soldier after all. So, like I said, enjoy your time together right now and take everything one day at a time. You can't deal with an issue that doesn't even exist yet. Which is horrible advice to receive, I understand, but it's true. There is nothing you can do but put on your best game face, support him, breathe, and worry about it all later. He'll be fine, you'll be fine, and best wishes! :)